Homosexual friend
How Do I Help My Same-sex attracted Friend?
by D’Ann Davis
“How do I help my gay friend?” This is a question we notice constantly in the Living Desire office, when out speaking at events, or from friends and church members from around the world. Twenty years ago several Christians asked this question, for few knew any same gender attracted people, or if they did know them, they were ignorant to their friend’s struggles. Today almost everyone knows of someone who identifies as homosexual or deals with a measure of same gender attractions. Even if a Christian finds himself in a season of being where he does not personally know of a same gender attracted (SGA) person in his sphere of influence, this ask is of utmost importance in light of the change of our culture and the growing willingness of Christians dealing with SGA to openly talk about their issues. So how does one help a gay-identified ally or SGA friend?
The first response I typically give to this question is actually another question. “Does your friend know Jesus?” This is a vital first question any believer must tackle before attem
The Gospel for a Queer Friend
Josh had always acknowledged he was different. From his earliest memories, he looked at some boys as more than just peers. His parents knew he was “special,” but they loved him for it. He learned to wear a mask and play the part of a “normal” kid until he graduated from tall school.
In college, Josh decided it was time to be who he really was. He made friends with other gay people and set out on sexual explorations. Josh set up a refuge in his gay community and developed bonds that ran much deeper than sexual flings. Though his parents distanced themselves and old friends turned a cold shoulder, Josh felt that he was finally free in his new identity as a gay man.
Josh is no caricature. His experiences and story are accurate, and they are common.
What if Josh were your neighbor or your co-worker or your son? How would you give the gospel to him? How would you tell him about the forgiveness of sins, the community of believers, and true self in Jesus?
In one instinct, there is no difference in the way we’d share the good news with Josh compared to any other pers
How Homosexual Friends Can Influence Our Kids
A question came up recently from a concerned parent: “How might a lesbian friend influence my child? Or someone who is muddled about gender?" This has been an issue in a number of situations we’ve encountered over the past few years, in discussions with both parents and students.
While we identify that young people who have unstable feelings are really in need of heterosexual friends, and it’s a delicate matter to try to split up friendships once they create, there are very real risks if the friendship is a close one. The first line of defense is to separate your child from the friend, if you can do it without open rebellion. Sometimes this isn’t possible if your son or daughter is an older teen or in college, so other alternatives need to be considered. There may be some things that you can make your own son or daughter aware of if they are open to the discussion.
Because there are increasing numbers of kids who are “out,” I am advising every parent to prepare a student in advance when—not if—they include a relatively next to associa
Forstie, Clare. "4 What Do You Mean Your Gay Friend?: LGBTQ Friendships". Queering the Midwest: Forging LGBTQ Community, New York, USA: New York University Press, , pp.
Forstie, C. (). 4 What Do You Imply Your Gay Friend?: LGBTQ Friendships. In Queering the Midwest: Forging LGBTQ Community (pp. ). New York, USA: New York University Press.
Forstie, C. 4 What Do You Mean Your Gay Friend?: LGBTQ Friendships. Queering the Midwest: Forging LGBTQ Community. New York, USA: Novel York University Press, pp.
Forstie, Clare. "4 What Do You Intend Your Gay Friend?: LGBTQ Friendships" In Queering the Midwest: Forging LGBTQ Community, New York, USA: Recent York University Press,
Forstie C. 4 What Do You Mean Your Gay Friend?: LGBTQ Friendships. In: Queering the Midwest: Forging LGBTQ Community. Fresh York, USA: New York University Press; p
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