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Why do some straight men acquire sex with other men?
According to nationally-representative surveys in the Joined States, hundreds of thousands of straight-identified men have had sex with other men.
In the modern book Still Straight: Sexual Flexibility among White Men in Rural America released today, UBC sociologist Dr. Tony Silva argues that these men – many of whom enjoy hunting, fishing and shooting guns – are not closeted, bisexual or just experimenting.
After interviewing 60 of these men over three years, Dr. Silva found that they enjoy a range of relationships with other men, from hookups to sexual friendships to secretive loving partnerships, all while strongly identifying with straight culture.
We spoke with Dr. Silva about his book.
Why undertake straight-identified men have sex with other men?
The majority of the men I interviewed reported that they are primarily attracted to women, not men. Most of these men are also married to women and prefer to have sex with women. They explained that although they loved their wives, their marital sex lives were not as active as they
LastweekI took to my Facebook wall to repost this HuffPost article about 13 straight male German stars kissing for a GQ photo shoot to march homophobia and intolerance. Some gay men posted and sent me messages stating that they found it erotic to watch two straight men kiss -- sometimes more so than watching two gay men kiss. Some said they found this as erotic as two women kissing might be to a straight guy. This got me wondering: Why are some gay men sexually turned on by direct men? Some even choose straight men over same-sex attracted men!
Before I get readers insisting that not all gay men are attracted to straight men, grant me say I realize that. I know, too, that it's politically incorrect to admit that there are gay men who are attracted to and pursue straight men, thanks to the myth that we gay men will pursue anyone who's male, ignoring social norms and acceptable etiquette. Of course this is ridiculous. In fact, it's so ridiculous that I performed some stand-up comedy on the topic, which you can see here:
Because of the projection from many a threatened straight male --
I knew Jake* would leave me from the very first time we kissed.
We sat on my bed to the soundtrack of Brooklyn at midnight – a mix between the bass drums of the subway and the melodic humming of taxi cabs that whizzed by. His calloused fingers intertwined with my own, our hearts beating as quickly as cicada wings fluttering in the summer haze, we connected, appreciate old lovers who reunited after a century apart. Or at least, that’s how I imagined it.
As I began pulling away, my face flushed with color, ashamed of how much less attractive I was, Jake pulled me back and told me I was beautiful. But at that moment, though I didn’t ask Jake’s sincerity, I knew he’d never love me – I knew this whole thing wouldn’t last. I knew he’d leave me.
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Jake was a direct boy and I knew how this would end – in complete, utter disappointment and heartache. I bring this up as the Internet is uncovering gay men fancy James Charles for preying on unbent men. In his specific case, James had weaponized his own celebrity to allegedly seduce men
A gay guy and a straight guy can be best friends too
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The gay campus president and the straight varsity jock meet in the passage sometime after class. They sat on the similar bench with some snacks and started out asking how each other’s afternoon went. They suddenly change into silly with one another; cracking up jokes and laughing audibly. Everyone around them suddenly gossips, simultaneously rolling their eyes, with matching disgusted looks on their faces. How could this be happening? Is the queer school chief chatting with the hottest guy in school? Are they flirting? This is so embarrassing! This is a learning institution! This is not right!
Wasn’t that a good fanfiction starter? Or was it too abrupt? The scene above illustrates how most people react to a male lover guy and a vertical guy bonding with one another. It can be an exaggeration, to tell the least, Others may even suggest that it's romantic, but one thing is for sure, a lot of people are not used to this kind of relationship. Is it impossible? Absol