How to know if your man is gay
My longtime friend and colleague Dr. Joe Kort has been treating and writing about gender and sexual orientation issues for nearly three decades. In his Royal Oaks, Michigan, practice, Joe specializes in Gay Affirmative Psychotherapy and IMAGO Relationship Therapy, often treating men who are questioning their sexual orientation. This population is the focus of his new and much-needed book: Is My Husband Gay, Linear, or Bi? A Guide for Women Concerned About Their Men. I am pleased that Joe has written this book, as I have had to deal with these questions in my own practice relatively often, as own many other therapists. I recently spoke with Joe about the book, and I wanted to share a limited of his thoughts below.
What prompted you to write this book?
There are two main reasons. Number one is the high incidence of male-female couples entering my office because the woman thinks her man might be gay. More often than not, he’s not same-sex attracted or even bi. He’s actually vertical, but for whatever reason, he’s been looking at lgbtq+ porn or he’s been having sex with men.
Number two is that
Is My Boyfriend Gay? Or Is It My Anxiety?
It&#;s not uncommon to possess a passing thought about your boyfriend&#;s or girlfriend&#;s sexual orientation. If questions like &#;is my boyfriend/girlfriend gay&#; take over, it may be a write of obsessive-compulsive disorder.
It&#;s spontaneous to have doubts sometimes about our romantic relationships. It happens all the time. But what if you can&#;t stop trying to figure out whether your boyfriend or girlfriend is gay?
If you&#;re unbent, it&#;s scary to consider that you&#;re with someone who&#;s gay and hasn&#;t realized it yet. Lots of people take a long time to recognize their sexual orientation, right? Maybe your boyfriend or girlfriend is just in the early part of this process. How can you tell?
Could This Be OCD?
For some people, the doubt and anxiety they experience around this topic rise to the level of obsessiveness.
Obsessions are a hallmark symptom of obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD). They typically take the form of an upsetting or scary thought that causes significant anxiety.
Sometimes in OCD, obsessions center on thoughts about o
If the thought has ever crossed your mind, &#;I think my boyfriend is gay&#;&#; this publish is for you.
This is a subject that I have wanted to write about for a very long time. Why? Because I once dated a guy who was everything I had ever wanted, until&#; I start something that forever changed the foundation that our relationship was built on.
I was once that girl, who didn&#;t know what to do or where to rotate. A girl that found herself in the middle of the night Googling, &#;Is he gay? Is my boyfriend gay? I think my boyfriend is gay&#; while *he* was sound asleep next to me &#; as seemingly NOT gay as ever. I had never had a connection with anyone like this before. It couldn&#;t be. But then again, why did I find what I found on his phone?
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Is My Husband Gay? Signs of a Gay Husband
Sometimes a woman may possess been in a heterosexual relationship for years and yet feel something is somehow "off;" and she may find herself asking, "Is my husband gay?" Many women find this question unthinkable but according to Bonnie Kaye, , an expert in women married to gay men, it is estimated that 4 million women contain been, or are, married to gay men. If a husband is same-sex attracted, it can devastate not only the relationship but the straight wife as well.
Signs of a Lgbtq+ Husband – Is My Man Gay?
The clearest way to know if your husband is gay is if he tells you. If the husband is honest with both you and with himself (read: How Do I Realize If I Am Gay? Signs You Are Gay), that is when you can truly know that he is gay. Unfortunately, it is estimated that 50% of gay husbands hide their homosexuality from their wives and don't reach this place of honesty on their possess. In many cases, it is the wife, who after suspecting that something is wrong, must confront the gay husband with the evidence, and only then can honestly be achieved.
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