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One night in the mids, Scott* tells me, his roommate went to the Fruit Loop — a secluded stretch of roadway in the southwest corner of Schenley Park — hoping to catch some dick. When the roommate returned, Scott, who had never gone cruising himself, despite spending many nights looking out the window of his apartment into the park, longing, or at least curious, asked how it went, expecting a raunchy story.
But the roommate, scowling, recounted a distasteful exchange that had turned him off: Making a slow turn about the Fruit Loop in his ride, watching and organism watched by the men at the edge of the woods, the roommate rolled his window down. One of the watchers approached, friendly and direct: “J’need blowed?”
This yinzer was too much for Scott’s fussy roommate, whose desire could not override his bourgeois, judgmental impulses. He’d rolled up the car window and high-tailed it home.
Many years later, Scott recounts this bedtime with regret. Despite living so seal to the Fruit Loop, Scott spent the ‘80s too afra
I’ve been gay and off-and-on single for too many years to count, so of course I’ve used every possible gay app under the sun. To help you avoid some of the many internet dating mistakes I’ve made, here’s an honest list of all the various queer dating & hookup apps that I’ve used – my personal experience and reviews of the top (and worst) gay apps.
Everyone has an opinion on the gay apps. They’ve become so ubiquitous and ingrained in our famous culture, they’re impossible to resist. I remember the first time I downloaded Grindr—shortly after it was released. Once The Modern York Times writers discovered it, the app planet seemed to explode with location-based dating apps.
Gay matchmaking app wasn’t easy for a long time. I was lucky enough to develop up & come out during the iPhone generation when thousands of recent types of apps seemed to be released every day. And the gays were instrumental to that digital boom.
The gay apps have fundamentally changed dating—for E V E R Y O N E, the gays, the straights. It changed LGBTQ nightli
As a gay man, you may be surprised to hear that one of the biggest hurdles I faced was going into a gay bar for the first time.
At years-old, I was in awe of my vertical mates. They&#;d been wandering into bars and nightclubs for the last year with the only threat of getting asked for age identification.
At 17 years mature , my straight mates were not only getting drunk most Friday and Saturday nights but were boasting about sleeping around with members of the opposite sex without any worry. Whether they&#;d slept with many of those they mentioned was open to debate.
At 17 years old, it was against the law for me to sleep with a person of the same sex. If I boasted about it, I could get myself into trouble. The law stated that, for my safety, sex remained on hold until I reached
Of course, I overlooked that particular part of the statute. Like any red-blooded male at 17, my hormones made my brain think of little else but wanting to (putting it mildly) get laid.
By the second I reached my 19th birthday, I already had what I had considered a boyfriend. He was over the age of 21 and
Long before the days of Grindr and the internet, the gay scene was largely underground. Gay and bi men had to find creative ways to connect in discreet, yet relatively safe spaces.
For many, the locals baths &#; or bathhouses- were a sanctuary where you could be yourself and meet other guys who were interested in both sexual and friendly connection.
Meanwhile, cruising spots were recognizable public spaces where men met for casual encounters.
Yet for decades, the baths were routinely raided and became a battleground for the fight for lgbtq+ rights and the queer liberation movement.
In today’s episode of #GayMenGoingDeeper, Michael is talking with long-time journalist, activist, and educator Tim McCaskell about bathhouses and cruising. Together they’ll divide personal stories while exploring topics such as:
- What really goes on in a bathhouse?
- Why are they vital to our history and culture?
- Are they still relevant today?
- What are the risks?
- Tips for making the most of your visit
Whether you enjoy the bathhouse scene or not, this episode will shed light on the soci