Gays and toys
The Gay Man&#;s Guide to Traveling With Sex Toys
We all have that one ally … the one who brazenly packs a inch dildo in his hand luggage with no cares in the world, begging to be searched at airport security in order to create the TSA workers blush! Thankfully for that friend of ours, this happened at Amsterdam’s Schiphol Airport — one of the gayest places in the world. But how do you travel with sex toys if you’re not as bold as our friend? What if you don’t enjoy drawing attention to yourself and just want to go about your journey with all your toys safely tucked away?
In this guide we’ve put together our top tips on how to travel with sex toys, including ways to minimize attention creature drawn to them and how to keep them safe. For more practical advice about traveling safely, be sure to inspect out our gay travel guard tips, which we think all LGBTQ travelers should read!
Here are 10 tips for gay men on how to travel with sex toys:
1. Stick to non-metallic cock rings …
… especially if you’re going to wear it while traveling! It’s going to set off the airport’s security a
Author's Personal Journey in Collecting
Source: Peter Danzig/Personal Collection
In the world of collecting, passions often run deep and defy conventional expectations. That’s a good thing, or else I don’t reflect I’d have a position as a geek therapist and toy analyst. On the other hand, I also wouldn’t have establish a wonderful community of toy collectors worldwide. One such fascination that has intrigued clinicians, theorists, marketing departments, and collectors alike is the affinity that some gay men acquire for Barbie dolls. It might seem unconventional or even paradoxical, but a closer and more affirming examination reveals a complex interplay of personal individuality, intersectionality, diversity, cultural affect, and psychological factors.
Nostalgia, Self, and Representation
Let's be clear: No theory can converse for a whole population of people. Yet, after 6 years of analyze, podcast interviews, and consulting for toy companies and innovation departments, one thing is clear: Barbie is for everyone. For many gay men I’ve interviewed or supported in therapy, collecting Barbi
Hey boys, are you curious about toys?
*QUICK DISCLAIMER: This article discusses sex toys marketed towards unbent, gay and bi/pan cis men. They can be used by anyone with a penis, or anus if so desired, but I'm specifically addressing the stigma levelled at cis men here. There are toy options in here too for transsexual men and transmasculine people, use and try what works for you.
While there’s historically been a bit of a double accepted between the consciousness of male and female sex toy users, it might be starting to change.
While toys for vulva-owners have get mainstream in the past decade, with celebrity-minted products from the likes of Lily Allen and Abbie Chatfield giving them an atmosphere of cool, empowered accessibility, straight men using toys include a bit of an ick factor.
If you found out your female partner had a vibrator, you’d hardly bat an eyelid, but generally, dudes with Fleshlights or sex dolls have been thought of as sad, lonely or perverted.
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Sexologist Cam Fraser says that this idea stems from our societal understanding of male sexuality being simpl
‘It’s not just pleasure – it’s resistance’: portraits of people with their sex toys around the world
Most of us are taught to keep our sexual lives private. We’re taught to hide our desires, and all too often, to be ashamed of them. Cultural instruction about sex tends to be very prescriptive. Sex happens in our bedrooms, behind closed doors, between a man and a gal. Sex is for procreation rather than pleasure. Sex is for marriage. Sex should only happen when you fall in love. If you’re a woman, you should only have one sexual significant other for the whole of your life. If you’re a man, the sky’s the limit.
Certainly, some of these mores have shifted over time, relaxed a bit. But mostly, we’re supposed to keep our sex lives to ourselves. And certainly, we aren’t supposed to partake of anything that would strain the strictures of “good taste”, like say, pornography or sex toys.
My Toys, a project from Italian photographer Gabriele Galimberti, is a frank celebration of the devices and accessories we use in our erotic lives. He photographed people, from around the nature, with their coll